So, I know in the past I’ve been like “New Year, New Me” and “I’m gonna get these things done this year”, but I’ve come to learn something over the last six or so months.
New Years Resolutions/Goals aren’t supposed to be a thing.
We should always been improving ourselves. If we don’t like something, we should change it here and now, and not wait for the ball to drop in New York for us to do something about it. I’ll admit that there’s a certain “newness” or “wash the slate clean” kind of moment when the clock strikes midnight and suddenly we have to remember to put the right year when we sign stuff, but what usually happens? We make the resolutions, we write them on a piece of paper or pin them to a wall somewhere to remind us of our vows to lose weight, be a better person, make more money, do more things – but in the end, do we actually achieve those goals? Can you remember the last time you actually did what you set out to do when January 1st rolled around? Did you lose that 20 pounds? Did you end up tacking on that extra $10k to your salary somehow? Or did you forget? Did you eat a few extra donuts more than you should have? Did you end up losing that job and getting another?
I’m not saying that goals are bad. They’re awesome. They should be made and conquered within reason. What I’m saying is that I’m not going to jump on the bandwagon and make a resolution this year like every mother’s child on the planet.
Instead, I’m making a vow to be true to myself. That’s all I can ever promise and all I can ever hope to accomplish. I don’t want to make a goal and say I’ll publish X amount of books this year or lose that extra belly fat. I’ll still try, but on my own terms and in my own time. I don’t need a bunch of 2018 party hats and fireworks to tell me that I need to improve myself. I’ve known that for years.
So, I encourage you to take a moment instead, to reflect on all that happened this past year. Was it a good year? Was it bad? Did it go by too fast or slow? Whatever your answer is, keep in mind that it’s the past. It’s meant to mold us, teach us, and then be left in the rearview mirror. No matter what the next year holds for you and your family – and I hope it’s good – rest assured that as long as you’re still breathing, as long as you’ve survived every day leading up to this moment, your story isn’t over.
I wish you a happy new year, filled with blessings!